Some children seem to let nothing get them down while others seem to take everything personally. You may or may not be aware that your child is sensitive.
An easy way to check is to watch your child and listen carefully to his/her stories. Does she say yes to things she shouldn’t? Is he concerned about a boy in class that doesn’t like him? Is she always trying to please others?
These are a few ways to guess at sensitivity and the interesting thing about sensitivity is that it is directly connected to either a dominant left ear or left eye or both. This is tested during the genetic brain profile. This is also my favourite part of the brain profile.
Sensitive children all have the following in common:
- They find it hard to say “no” to people, even if the request is irrational.
- They want people to be happy. If not, they’ll try to cheer the person up.
- They want people to like them. If one person doesn’t like them, they’ll be fixated on that and rarely focus on the people who do like them.
- They are compassionate towards other people and sincere empathy comes naturally to them.
- When they stress, they feel like the whole world is against them, nobody cares about them, everybody hates them and they may even be scared.
Sensitive EAR | Sensitive EYE |
- Sensitive to tone and pitch - Are distracted by noise - If people SOUND angry, they assume it's their fault and stress - Shrill or loud voices = angry voices | - Sensitive to body language - Are distracted by movement - If people LOOK angry, they assume it's their fault and stress - Violence/painful scenes haunts them |
*Need VERBAL RECOGNITION | *Need VISUAL RECOGNITION |
Spoken words of affirmation: “I love you”, “you are beautiful”, “thank you”, "Mommy is proud of you", etc. | Show affection: hugs; kisses; notes on the fridge, pillow or in lunch boxes; special gestures (eg. favorite dinner), etc. |
*This is not an ego booster. Without these recognitions, the child assumes the opposite is true and develops a low self esteem. | |
It is vital to understand your child’s sensitivity. Giving the wrong kind of recognition leads to misunderstandings and lots of heartache for both parent and child. They also need guidance to learn how to say “no” to people; otherwise they will always be “the sucker who says yes”.
They need to learn how to be compassionate without compromising themselves and for that they need gentle parenting.
Some children have both of these sensitivities, which make them classic people pleasers. Help and show them how to be assertive because they easily fall prey to others’ manipulations. They also need both types of recognition to develop a healthy self esteem.
Some children have no sensitivity at all which you need to be aware of as well. They can become arrogant, defiant and manipulative. They need to learn how to deal with other peoples’ feelings (since they don’t care what other people think of them) and be considerate towards others.
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